Here's my situation.... When my husband and I found out we were pregnant with twins, his mom, dad and sister's family decided to just move 1600 miles away. Well that left us alone to fend for ourselves. Okay, so we are dealing with new twins, one was colicky, I was doing at home day care, and just at the end of my rope. They call and inform us that they were planning a trip to visit, and all seven would be on their way. I was overwhelmed, and explained that this was very bad timing, and that any other time they would be welcome. Well here we are a year later and that is still being brought up, and there is obviously hard feelings. Was I wrong? I feel they were wrong for even asking at such a stressful time. And I'll add they weren't here for us they wanted to see their friends. Do you think they should havebeen more understanding, or was I out of line? My husband was completely agreed with me, but I'm taking the heat.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:14 PM on May. 30, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by finallyamom40 at 11:18 PM on May. 30, 2009
I have one question, you say that your in-laws were coming to see friends not you, so were they looking to stay at the Hotel Freebie, your door, instead of shelling out for the Holiday Inn? Is that why your said it wasn't a good time? I can understand it if that was the case and I think you were well within your rights to tell them it wasn't a good time. You have to do what is best for you and your family (hubby & kids) and if that doesn't include an invasion of the in-laws at that time then so be it. It they are still upset about it then, as my mom would say, they need to put on their big girl panties and grow up.
Answer by chrissmom734 at 11:28 PM on May. 30, 2009
You make it sound like they moved because you got pregnant. Like they were abandoning you. Why didn't you all just move with them? But if it were me, family is always welcome, both mine and his unconditionally.
Answer by Chrissy629 at 7:22 AM on May. 31, 2009
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Answer by doublefistin at 11:04 AM on May. 31, 2009