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I was wondering if anyone knew if when paternity is established if my child's father has to have visitation? I'm thinking he's going to say no if he has a choice. Does he have to pay more support if he says no?

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Asked by Courtney508 at 12:42 AM on May. 31, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Yes he still needs to pay. The only way he wont is if you give him the right to sign over his rights as a parent.

    Answer by Jillybeans24 at 12:46 AM on May. 31, 2009

  • more support no, but he still ahs to pay support if it is court orderd

    Answer by 2cuteboysrmine at 12:47 AM on May. 31, 2009

  • Does he have to pay more if he isn't having visitations with her?

    Answer by Courtney508 at 12:48 AM on May. 31, 2009

  • that's so dumb,you think since he isn't spending money on her when he is supposed to have her, he would have to pay more.

    Answer by Courtney508 at 12:59 AM on May. 31, 2009

  • NO actually visitation and support are two different things. Hubby & i are going through this with his sons mom. He pays court ordered support, and has joint custody, but she keeps the little boy from him all the time. We called the Atorney General and they said that support and vistiation are two different things.
    So yeah even if he has vistiation or not he will have to pay child support if he is proven to bethe father. The only thing that can keep him from paying support is if he signs over his parental rights to the child.
    Now with the visitation thing if you have proof that he has been violent then he will end up getting supervised vistiation. If not then he will just have visitation on how ever you guys agree to. But either way it goes he will have visitaion. Wiether he wants to see the child or not it will be on the court order that he has visitation.
    Good Luck you can im me if you have any more questions

    Answer by Married2daBest at 4:23 AM on May. 31, 2009

  • Why should he have to pay more just b/c he doesn't see her? I'm sure you didn't intend it this way, but it makes you sound like you're just after money. He will have to pay child support whether he sees her or not. He does not have to pay more just b/c he doesn't see her. And he won't have a "choice", per se, on seeing her. When paternity is established, the judge will make an order for child support, visitation, etc., and his choice will consist of choosing to exercise or not exercise his right to visitation. Good luck!

    Answer by tropicalmama at 9:08 AM on May. 31, 2009

  • He has to pay child support if it's court ordered and if it's not, then you can go to court and get backpay as well. But if you're not wanting him to have visitation you can't stop it if it's court ordered, but you will get the same amount of child support whether he visits or not and you can't make him take the visitations if he doesn't want them.
    If you want him to sign over his rights, then you can get rid of all of the support all together if he agrees to that.

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 10:53 AM on May. 31, 2009

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