What is going through a bmom's head when they insult their child? I am guessing this has to be some kind of defense mechanism but my child's bmom keeps making cracks about her physical appearance. This started prior to birth where she would keep saying how ugly the bdad was and how she hoped the baby looked like her. The baby favors the dad who we have never met.
She has gone so far as to make ethnic references about the baby (who is biracial and has Dad's coloring). The baby is less than a year so she doesnt know what is being said but my older child who adores baby sister hears it.
I have been trying to be casual about it by saying gently "dont say that, she has a beautiful nose, etc" every time she makes a comment but it is getting annoying. The relationship is so new, I dont feel comfortable telling her how I really feel but I think the baby is beautiful, shouldnt she?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:56 AM on Jun. 3, 2009 in Adoption
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Answer by lillie023 at 4:51 PM on Jun. 3, 2009
"I think the baby is beautiful, shouldn't she? " Not necessarily. When my twins were infants my boy looked like the Gerber baby but my girl sure didn't. She got cuter as she grew and now she's stunning, but she was not a pretty infant. I don't think that's your real question is it? Your real question is how to deal with bmom. Communication is key in any relationship and you'll need to learn how to communicate with her. When you're not upset or angry, bring up that it bothers you when she insults her/your daughter, regardless of whether your other child is in the room or not. Tell her it's not ok with you.
Answer by onethentwins at 7:11 PM on Jun. 3, 2009
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