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Why wud a man Deny their child

IM PREG. FRM A MAN THAT NOW DENIES ERRTHING.....JUS BECAUSE SOME OF HIS OTHER GIRLFRIENDS FOUND OUT.(GIRLFRIENDS I DIDNT KNW ABOUT). WE WHERE TOGETER A LONG WHILE N WEN I WAS 4 N HALF MONTHS SOM CHIK CAME TO MY HOUSE .WIT A POLE ...N ECT..THAT WAS THE DAY ME N HIM BROKE UP HE DNT WANNA DO RITE HE DNT WANNA GIVE ME ANY MONEY FOR AN ABORTION(WHICH IS NOW TO LATE)..NOW HE WONT EXACTLY SAY IT AINT HIS BABY HE JUS SAY U CANT BELIVE ERRTHING YOU HEAR....UGH...IM 19 N HE IS 23..I EXPECT MORE FRM A GRWN MAN ....MY QUESTION IS WHY WUD ANY MAN KNWINGLY DENY THEIR CHILD TO PROTECT THEIR STREET CRED?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 12:37 PM on Jun. 3, 2009 in Relationships

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  • In all honesty, you can't fault him for being who he is..if denying his unborn child is what he's doing, then you've got to be the bigger person and learn from this type of experience and move on with your life...he's not the first man that has denied his child and he will not be the last...and I'm sure there where signs that he was not the total man that you thought or wanted to assume he was...
    treasured_hope

    Answer by treasured_hope at 12:43 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • First off deat heart age does define maturity.I have learned that. I have also come to learn that many men are just out looking for the booty. They do not care about you or having a realationship with you, they just want some booty, they are too selfish and immature to take responsibility by using birth control (condomes) they are just into the thrill of the moment. Therefore when the baby comes he cares nothing about the baby becasue he is not into you anyway. He just wants to hit it and quit it. It is sad but many of us women learn too late. We put men that we do not know on the same level that we are on and they are not. He is listening to his other girlfriends because that is what he wants to do. He wants a reason to not be resonsible. You can prove that he is the father, get a paternity test and even drag him on Jerry Springer but you cannot make him be responsible or love you. All you can do is woman up. Take care.
    my2kids312

    Answer by my2kids312 at 12:52 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • 23 year old men...
    are NOT grown men usually...
    why would he do what he is doing....maybe because he just does not care...
    Maybe because he is a punk that thinks he can do what ever he wants to do..
    If I was you, I would get a paternity test done to prove that he is the father and have
    the courts make him pay you child support...
    Learn from this jerk, don't let little boys like him
    walk on you!
    Dannee

    Answer by Dannee at 12:52 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • FIRST OFF TAKE OFF THE CAPS LOCK AND TYPE LIKE YOU ARE NOT ON YOUR PHONE SO IT CAN BE UNDERSTOOD BETTER.....

    if its his baby, then i would so take him to court for everything and get a dna test ordered so that he learns some responsibility. not having enough money to take his girlfiend(s) out will really damage his street cred...lol....
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:53 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • there is nothing you can do about him try to put some sense in his head that you want your family together but if he's not ready prepare to raise this child on your own and try your hardest always to give her a good life, if your a good person you will meet someone who will accecpt the both of you as you are and will make you happy one day, but just don't waste your time and energy on someone who shows you no respect because your child will learn it as well! good uck
    mirit.rose

    Answer by mirit.rose at 12:54 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • Simple because at a 23 yo man is NOT a grown man just like dannee said, if he is going to be that way then its time for YOU to grow up and step up to the plate because more than likely you are going to end up being a single mom, do yourself a favor and stop worrying about the drama he is causing and move on for the sake of yourself and your unborn baby. When the baby is born go get a DNA, and handle it from, there on out.
    hautemama83

    Answer by hautemama83 at 1:11 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • lots of men do that even older than 23. He can deny all he wants but DNA will make a believer out of him after the child is born and you file for Child Support!
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 1:16 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • because he is an a-hole. lol. sorry. stories like this make me sick. some men don't realize how precious children are. they procreate without a bat of an eye,like it's no big deal. big man ...ooo his sperm works. i would ignore his ass,have my baby, love my baby to pieces, slam child support on him and show him how much his little sperm costs. if he's lucky...he'll grow up a little by the time baby is born so he can be part of this special and wonderful childs life,if you let him after what an inconsiderate jerk he's been.in meantime...take care of yourself...kick your feet up,eat some cookies,sip on a glass of milk..read some baby books..yay!your having a baby! :)
    kimberlyinberea

    Answer by kimberlyinberea at 1:36 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • okay 1st off go to your local welfare office and put your self on welfare. This way when the child is here they will automatic give him a dna and make him pay back order and just say fuck him
    deshae

    Answer by deshae at 5:27 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

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