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Is it okay to asked a friend of mine to find out about my husband and a co-worker if my friend works with them and my husband is acting suspicious when it comes to this co-worker.

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carltom

Asked by carltom at 4:22 PM on Jun. 3, 2009 in Relationships

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  • How close are you two? If ita a good friend, then they wont betray your confidences, but if its just a casual friend, no way! You may put them in an akward situation, or they may tell all your business and your husbands all over the office!
    jchris

    Answer by jchris at 4:29 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • well i guess if you want your friend to know the business between you & your hubbie then go ahead & ask. You don't want her to get into trouble at work do you? Have you come right out & asked him whats going on? If not then do so before bringing 3rd party into it. Can you trust that your friend will be honest with you? What do you mean by "acting suspicious"? Could he be trying to help his coworker through something as just a friend? Have you met his coworker? This is a tough call cause it could cause problems at work not only for hubbie & his coworker but your friend as well. Weigh all the options before doing anything.
    3Dani75

    Answer by 3Dani75 at 4:30 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • Go for it. That is EXACTLY what i would do. No time wait, you need to find out before it could get ugly. He does not need to know. You may just find out that everything is COOL! It will not hurt i don't think.
    samurai_chica

    Answer by samurai_chica at 4:31 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • Would you want your hubby having someone check up on you? IMO you are just asking for trouble.
    abbynzachsmommy

    Answer by abbynzachsmommy at 4:33 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • Keep your worries to yourself. It would place your friend in an uncomfortable position. Find out some other way what is going on, if anything.
    Bmat

    Answer by Bmat at 4:36 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • sure but don't get your panties in a twist if he finds out what you've done.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 5:34 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

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