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Can I get advice on a last name please

Our first son is a jr so he obviously has his dads last name.. i am not married but we live together as a family and i like it this way (not knockin marrige just not my thing) any ways I kinda want this baby to have either my last name or 2 last names, but i dont know if would be funny if my kids had 2 different last names.. His last Name is Santos and so is my sons. I would like opinoins please. Also if i do hyypenate would it look better my LN first or his?

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JrsMommy07

Asked by JrsMommy07 at 6:53 PM on Jun. 3, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • i gave my son a double middle name. his second middle name is my maiden name (we werent married at the time) and his last name is his dad's last name.
    SThompson21

    Answer by SThompson21 at 6:56 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • My daughter has my maiden name as her middle name and her father's name as her last name (we are married and I use his name). Usually if you hyphenate, the woman's name goes first.
    evwsquared

    Answer by evwsquared at 6:58 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • I would give the baby his last name too. Becuse your son already has it is why I say that. I have 2 boys that have different last names (my oldest is not biologically my husbands and we are going through a step parent adoption process right now so he will have it soon) But my oldest is old enough he knows this and has problems with it especiually after his little brother started school. He feels like he is not completely his brother since they have different names. I know my situation is a bit different but thats my experience with having kids with different names. If you do hyphenate (which would also be a really good idea, or use your last name for a middle name) I think it is tradition for most families to do mom's, then dad's last name. Good luck on your decision!
    AK_aries

    Answer by AK_aries at 7:00 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • Give the kids the same last name...my sis-in-law did that with the two different last names and wound up getting them changed to the same last names after a week. It gets so confusing for the kids.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:00 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • Having kids with different last names isn't odd at all any more --- what with the divorcing & remarrying & all that. It's really common, so I don't think anyone would bat an eye. Might think your kids have different dads, but who cares what they think, really?
    Laura1229

    Answer by Laura1229 at 7:02 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • I used my maiden name for my dd's middle name. Both dd and ds have their dad's last name. However, I have a friend who's first two have their dad's last name and third has her last name (but it's different dads and she's single, has been for 7 years; this child with her last name was conceived without a father - sperm bank, long story). So, obviously, she gave the baby her last name. All that said, I would just go with his last name since they are both his kids. You got to carry them for 9 months and will have a stronger connection to them because of this. Giving them his last name is kind of like a bonding thing, I think. Maybe I'm way off...
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:08 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • I think I would give them both the same last name.
    AmiJanell

    Answer by AmiJanell at 7:55 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • My DD has my last name and her fathers, we hyphenated it. We are not married, but like you, live together and have been together a long time, we just don't see the point of marriage at the time.

    Anyway, I think if at all possible kids should have the same last name, so I would just give baby the same last name as #1.

    I would have been fine with my daughter just having her father's last name, but I am Polish and have a Polish last name and I didn't want to give that part of her heritage up. If my name was Smith or Robinson or something American, I wouldn't have hyphenated and just gone with dads name.
    Arkaidy

    Answer by Arkaidy at 8:09 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • I would say to keep it his last name. But honestly, it's all up to you. My first daughter kept my ex husbands last name, which I will soon be switching back to my maiden name, and that makes me sad not to share her last name. Now, Im having another girl, and she'll have my boyfriend's last name.
    CravingMoocher

    Answer by CravingMoocher at 8:15 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

  • my children have their fathers' name. My son by first marriage has his father's name and the babies from my current marriage have their father's name. If I were not married, I would probably still give them their fathers' last name. Like the other poster said, maybe use your name as the middle name
    mommystiebler

    Answer by mommystiebler at 9:28 PM on Jun. 3, 2009

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