you and DH probably ought to talk to the legal office about your options and what rights you retain while he is away. obviously, stand up for your right as a step-parent, but realize they are her birth children and while sometimes unfair, the courts tend to weight that heavily. also..something to think about..is him having phone privelages while deployed. thats something a lot of our friends have issues with. they werent necessarily allotted phone calls or given mandatory phone privelages for the kids. the result is they didnt get to talk to them through the entire deployment. being genial and as curteous as possible can only help the situation, try not to get too defensive as hard as that may sound. everyone is gonna be stressed out about it so take a breath, exhale, and keep a level head! good luck!
at 1:58 PM on Jun. 4, 2009