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Question for the Military Wives

My fiance wants to join the reserves but, he has custody of his 3 kids. If we got married and he later got deployed would the courts give the kids to their mom then or would they let them stay with me while he was away as long as I let her keep her same visitation schedule?

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pages6

Asked by pages6 at 1:04 PM on Jun. 4, 2009 in Relationships

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  • its whomever he picks as the caregiver. and he has to put it in paperwork prior to doing anything. he picks

    of course if the mother is around, she gets first dibs
    moki1984

    Answer by moki1984 at 1:45 PM on Jun. 4, 2009

  • and would have to sign paperwork giving up taht right
    moki1984

    Answer by moki1984 at 1:46 PM on Jun. 4, 2009

  • unless she signs over paperwork saying its alright and gives up her rights.......

    they are hers, not yours. if he got sent to germany or something...kids could not go without her permission etc etc
    moki1984

    Answer by moki1984 at 1:46 PM on Jun. 4, 2009

  • you and DH probably ought to talk to the legal office about your options and what rights you retain while he is away. obviously, stand up for your right as a step-parent, but realize they are her birth children and while sometimes unfair, the courts tend to weight that heavily. also..something to think about..is him having phone privelages while deployed. thats something a lot of our friends have issues with. they werent necessarily allotted phone calls or given mandatory phone privelages for the kids. the result is they didnt get to talk to them through the entire deployment. being genial and as curteous as possible can only help the situation, try not to get too defensive as hard as that may sound. everyone is gonna be stressed out about it so take a breath, exhale, and keep a level head! good luck!
    FoxyRoxyMommy

    Answer by FoxyRoxyMommy at 1:58 PM on Jun. 4, 2009

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