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I have a 12 year old girl who has ADD-how much time is evough or too much on the computer. She would be on theire 24 hours a day if I let her. Also ,sometimes she has arguments with friewnds and says thingss I know she would NEVER say to a persons face or in public.

She has her own gmail account and I may have to close it. I am trying to f=get parental controls on the computer, so far she goes to UTube and my space, abd other teeney bobish sites.

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:57 PM on Jun. 4, 2009 in Teens (13-17)

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  • You probably need to cut her time and access down to like an hour or two a day


    Answer by louise2 at 4:00 PM on Jun. 4, 2009

  • Start cutting her time a little a day,it may take a little longer,the first day,cut 15 minutes,do that for 5 days,then cut another 15 minutes,if,you do it gradually,she will never know or miss the time she is away from the computer,just like,when you go on a diet,you cut back gradually,so you can have better results.

    Answer by lady-t3984 at 4:35 PM on Jun. 4, 2009

  • I wouldnt tell her she cant go on those things anymore if you already let her...but you should seriously cut her time let her go on for an hour a day or something

    Answer by hug4akiss at 8:25 PM on Jun. 4, 2009

  • I would keep the computer password-protected and limit her time.
    If your issue is with the ADD/ADHD, I do have some thoughts. There are many therapists who work with people who have ADD/ADHD; they teach them not just coping skills, but how to use ADD/ADHD as an advantage in their lives. Thom Hartmann has written extensively on this topic; you should be able to find his books art your local library, there is lots of information at his website:
    You should examine how foods affect behavior, either from the Feingold Organization ( or another source.
    It would be great to get her on fish oil supplements, they need to be taken every day, and it takes 6-8 weeks to see improvement in attention span.

    Answer by rkoloms at 1:52 PM on Jun. 5, 2009

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