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my 4 yr old has been acting out really bad since we have gotten custody of her 17 month old sister.She has an older sister and brother so it's not like she has been an only child. I have done everything I can think of to straighten her out but nothing seems to work. please help!!!!

I have been trying to get my daughter to act 4 instead of one with extra love and attention and it is not working

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beboland

Asked by beboland at 10:46 PM on Jun. 4, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • She isn't the baby anymore. That is the problem. It doesn't matter if she has OLDER siblings...because she was the youngest until you got custody of the 17 month old. There really isn't much you can do to help the situation...she will get used to it eventually. Right now it is just a period of jealousy that she will have to get over. Just shower her with lots of love and attention and try and include her in playing with her new sister and being a "big girl" and helping mommy out. When you get frustrated with her bad behavior, just try and remember that change is hard for young children to understand and get used to and that her bad behavior is just a way of expressing her frustration and maybe even a little anger. Discipline her with love not anger. Hopefully with time, thing will get better. Good luck!
    Ash9724

    Answer by Ash9724 at 10:51 PM on Jun. 4, 2009

  • EVEN IF SHE IS NOT THE ONLY CHILD, HE HAS ALWAYS BEEN THE BABY. NOW SHE IS NOT THE BABY ANYMORE. SHE WILL EVENTUALLY GET USED TO IT. JUST TRY TO BALANCE YOUR AFFECTION TOWARDS BOTH OF THEM AND SHE WILL LEARN TO MELLOW DOWN AND NOT ALWAYS WANT YOUR ATTENTION. BE PATIENT CAUSE THIS MAY TAKE SOME TIME. TAKE SOME TIME AWAY JUST FOR HER, NOT LONG, BUT JUST TELL HER THAT YOU LOVE HER JUST SO SHE KNOWS. SHE JUST KINDA FEELS LIKE YOU ARE REPLACING HER RIGHT NOW, SO SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT NOTHING HAS CHANGED AND THAT THERES JUST SOMEONE ELSE THERE
    NATI2124

    Answer by NATI2124 at 10:58 PM on Jun. 4, 2009

  • Try to get her interested in helping. She might feel special to be able to do things for the baby, like show them how to stack blocks and knock them over.. or how to make the baby laugh. This usually gets them to bond quickly.
    Seven07

    Answer by Seven07 at 12:18 AM on Jun. 5, 2009

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