I am a SAHM to a beautiful 19mo. lil girl that is driving me insane. I have asked her doctor & my doctor, but they didn't give me any answers. My daughter has prematurely hit her terrible twos BIG TIME! She is constantly doing things she KNOWS she is not suppose to do. Is always trying to get her way with everything she does, and every time I say no to her, or try to offer her something else to do/have she throws the most horrible tantrums. (kicking, screaming, biting, hitting, head butting, etc.) It's getting to the point that I can't bring her into stores without her flipping out within the first 5 minutes, car rides are impossible, and forget about bed time. She's getting so bad now that she is leaving cuts and bruises on herself and on me from trying to stop her and calm her down & anything I do doesn't work. I just don't know what to do anymore, and I think I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown. What do I do?!?Answer Question
Answer by 07lilmama1108 at 4:18 AM on Jun. 5, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 4:49 AM on Jun. 5, 2009
I learned that ignoring tantrums was the only thing that worked. It wasn't easy, but when my kids got out of hand, kicking and screaming, I would simply walk away. I would do the dishes, sort the laundry, anything to remove myself from the equation. Once they realized that I did not care about their screaming, and would not give in, they stopped.
I used the same idea for time-outs. I would put them on the bottom stair by themselves and not talk to them until they served the full punishment (1 minute per year of age). If they got up before time was served, I would silently put them back.
It usually took a couple of weeks for each one to catch on, but they did. I think most of this behaviour is to see our reactions. If they don't get one, what's the point?
Answer by mom2cjj at 9:19 AM on Jun. 5, 2009
Why do you say prematurely?? I hate to tell you this but the terrible twos start around 18 monthsÂ & last throughout the 2 y.o. markÂ & into the 3's . they call it the terrible 2's because it encompasses the whole second year The first thing I would suggest is consistency. The second thing is the book 1-2-3-magic. I have used it with both my kidsÂ & it works..... BUT you have to always use it don't stop. When she throws a fit tell her to stop and tell her if she doesn't then you will leave the store. Then follow thru. Never make a threat about punishment unless you plan to FOLLOW THRU 100 %. Be firm with her. Start taking away things of hers that she loves and values. If she will not listen tell her she will lose this toy or that show you get the idea. Then follow thru. She is at an age where she is learning what she likes & is testing the waters.
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