You may not even relize it, but you might be making your husband feel like he has nothing to contribute by taking away his form of discipline. Admit to him that you are learning how to discipline too, and that you don't want to do anything that would bother him either. Instead of telling your husband what not to do, try phrasing it like, "hey honey, today I discovered that when Son did this, he responded really well to this" or also tell him when he doesn't respond well to something. That way it shows that you ARE correcting your son, but that you don't have all the answers either. Ask his opinion about how he thinks you are doing. Really try to bring the teamwork together. I know as a former "spanker" that it is in your mind that if you are NOT spanking, then you ARE spoiling. But by gently showing him that that is not true, you'll chang his mind, and gain respect in his eyes.
at 4:59 PM on Jun. 6, 2009