I'm not sure how to handle her. I want to be her friend/sister and be a confidant and stuff. But she also needs rules. She is still young and stuff and needs guidance.
I'm not 100% on how to help her to grow up to be a responisble adult and how to be her friend too. Or if I can be both? She's not my child, so its not clear cut.
I want to help her but not enable her. I want to be her friend but she has to obey the house rules. I am terrified she's gonna come home pregante and I'm not sure what to do. She on BC and they use condoms but accidents happen all the time.
Ugh I'm not sure. I want to help her but not sure how to. Any advice?
Well as far as rules go she will have to understand that even adults living on their own have to adhere to certain rules. When you rent a home the landlord has rules that you have to follow. Try to get her to see it that way. Also, this is your home for your family and if she puts stress on you and/or them then that is disrespectful and out of line. Growing up is hard and can suck but we all have to do it. If she is old enough to have a fiance then she should be old enough to understand that being an adult mean being responsible. Teach her by example, most youngins' hear what we do more than what we say.You can be her friend but being a friend doesn't mean she gets to be irresponsible. Just be very clear on what you will accept and expect from her from the beginning.
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