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Im in such a catch 22 position...maybe someone can see an option i dont see...

Problem: I recently started looking for a job. i miss working and im thinking if i can get a job making $2 more an hr. than my SO he can go back to school like we doesnt start until august, so he still wants to work over the summer, thats awesome double income we'd be great. As of now were staying with my mom, due a misfortunate serious of events. I went for an interview and about positive i got the job, my problem, it pays what he makes! no more no less...we dont have ne one no fam no friends to watch my son for awhile...i got approved for daycare but im supposed to start tuesday, sooo dont have time to go find a good one.
His grandma or brother is willing to come down here and stay with us for awhile when we move out and babysit for basically free, because his whole family is on their way down. CONT


Asked by Anonymous at 3:10 PM on Jun. 7, 2009 in Money & Work

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  • do you really live paycheck to paycheck or do you get some small extras in between? (fast food, ciggs, alcohol, junk food, toys/clothes that aren't needed etc...) if you do (which i know for me when we thought we were living paycheck to paycheck we realized alot went towards this kinda thing) cut it in half or out altogether and save what you would be spending on that. at least that way you are saving something and will hopefully have some money set aside so you can see if the renter will work with you. most places will allow you to put down your deposit than w/in 30-60 days pay the rest of whatever it is they want. for example one apartment i lived in required a $400 pet deposit, on top of first months and the regular deposit, they allowed us to pay first months rent up front. we had 60 days to pay the pet deposit and 30 days to pay the regular security deposit. so ask about that kind of thing while you are looking at places.

    Answer by vabchmommy at 3:50 PM on Jun. 7, 2009

  • CONT. but getting to the point of moving out is almost impossible..what can i do to make things happen going to the employment office tuesday to see if they can help. i wanna move out ASAP but you know when you move you gotta have rent AND a deposit, and we live check to check,...not really time to save...his fam owes us 350 which would REALLY help but doenst look like were getting it back ne time soon....HELP ME!!!

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:12 PM on Jun. 7, 2009

  • Each state/ town has low income housing which they help you with rent based on income and will split up your deposit. that would be you best bet if you wanna move...

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:18 PM on Jun. 7, 2009

  • Maybe you should both work for awhile and he should delay school. Once you build up savings and can afford to live on your own, then maybe you can cut back to only one working and he could go to school. Or, plan on him working at least 20-30 hours while he does his studies. Many people work while going to school. It would be even more important to do it when you have a family to provide for. You're both going to have to pull your fair share to make it work.

    Answer by halfpint_ny at 8:06 PM on Jun. 7, 2009

  • Yea halfpint...were trying that but then daycare becomes a BIG problem...and im trying to work that out to...just always something else to plan for...just trying to figure out what order to do things in..ya know? sometimes fresh minds come up with the best ideas?!

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:37 PM on Jun. 7, 2009

  • Rather than quit his job or delay his education, your husband can take evening and online classes; he can start part-time. Your local community college has online and evening classes, and the financial aid office will have some scholarship information. has tons of scholarship information. You may be able to find weekend work to help out the family.

    Answer by rkoloms at 5:56 AM on Jun. 8, 2009