I just can't seem to do it. I can't get over him. We broke up 2 months ago and we've tried to be friends since. It was working but I can't seem to get over the fact that the night he moved out he was with another girl. He apparently told her he loved her and they were dating. It hurts so bad. I know for a fact that he doesn't love her but he won't cut her out of his life. I think that I should be more important than her. If I ask him to cut her out of his life, even if they are just "friends" and he's already broken up with her, than he should do it. It shouldn't be an issue. I just don't know how to go on. Any advice? I tried to talk to him tonight about some things but when I asked his opinion he says that i'm not "owed" that. He doesn't "owe" me a conversation? I think that's fucked up.Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 9:41 PM on Jun. 7, 2009
Answer by hopelessnance at 10:09 PM on Jun. 7, 2009
Answer by keb7 at 10:17 PM on Jun. 7, 2009
You may get angry with what I have to say, but I am okay with that. I am saying this to you because it is what I went through when my SO left for another girl shortly after our dd was born. Okay, you need to get over your pity party. Move on from you "woe is me". I know that you are hurt and you have every right to be, but you can not control what he does and who he has in his life. You need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and look in the mirror. Say to yourself, I am something and I am someone important and special. Then, get some money and buy an outfit that makes you feel pretty and sexy. Then, most importantly, you need to get a friend, or two and you need to go out. Make your ex watch the kids while you go out and have FUN. Flirt, get phone numbers, get free drinks, if you drink, but remember that you don't have to commit. You need to find yourself again. And over time you will heal. Good luck.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 11:28 PM on Jun. 7, 2009
Answer by grannywilson at 12:17 AM on Jun. 8, 2009
Answer by ajguinn at 11:49 AM on Jun. 8, 2009