Yesterday, we dedicated my baby to the Lord at church. We had been planning this for about a month, because my dad was coming to town, and I wanted him to be there. Sadly, the day before the dedication, another family lost their baby, and had the funeral and burial at the church. The mourning family was at church service when we dedicated my daughter. The pastor mentioned that the family had just buried their baby the day before, and that they were grieving their loss while I was celebrating a birth. The pastor and a few members of the church said it was prophetic that I was celebrating life while they were mourning, and that they were going to be given another child. When the pastor said they had lost their child, I immediately started to cry, and I didn't want to do it anymore. In my heart, she is already dedicated, but I didn't want to make them any more sad. I felt horrible and didn't want to put them in any more pain. ctd
You should never feel guilty about celebrating life. The fact that you sympathised with the grieving family shows you are a person of good conscience.
I'm sure the grieving family understood your joy.
Answer by beeky at 1:49 PM on Jun. 8, 2009
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Answer by NotPanicking at 2:07 PM on Jun. 8, 2009
I don't believe in Grieving death. I prefer to celebrate life. No matter if the child is moments old or a 99 year old man. They have moved on from this life and are in a better place. I lost many a friends and family and have always help to that. If they were here they would rather we rejoice in their memory than mourn in their death. I would think that the other family could take comfort in the fact that you were there with your child. To me it would be a sign that life goes on, that there is always a second chance and that life is precious. I would see this as life telling me that no one can bring my baby back, but that I should look for new ways to fight the pain and move forward, rejoicing with others in their time of pride.
Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 2:12 PM on Jun. 8, 2009
Oh my, I am so sorry such a happy occasion was turned into sorrow. That was wrong for both families to have to endure. That was not thoughtful or kind to either families. I would be upset.
Answer by pnwmom at 3:02 PM on Jun. 8, 2009
Answer by lighthousemom3 at 3:08 PM on Jun. 8, 2009
I think the church was very inconsiderate to both families when they said those things. Even more so to your family though because at least the other family had a service for the funeral and so that was their time. The church service was in part your time for your baby. No one should have taken that joy away from you by bringing up the other family. I feel sad that they lost their baby, but how rude for the pastor to try to tie the two together (at least without the permission of both parties involved).
If anything the pastor went about it the wrong way. I have always celebrated both life and death. In reality death is a celebration too. For Christians it should be a celebration of the loved one joining with the Lord in Heaven.
Answer by anime_mom619 at 3:17 PM on Jun. 8, 2009
Answer by nysa00 at 3:41 PM on Jun. 8, 2009