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A year after we promised to teach our children about our faith

my husband isn't helping. Should I force him to go to church and teach the kids? I am going to continue but this was suppose to be a joint effort.

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:56 PM on Jun. 8, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • Forcing someone to go to church? So that's the christian way.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:57 PM on Jun. 8, 2009

  • i agree with anon. there is also sunday school

    Answer by DeathBat at 5:59 PM on Jun. 8, 2009

  • Forcing him to go to church is only going to cause more distress in the family and in your relationship...

    Answer by gmasboy at 5:59 PM on Jun. 8, 2009

  • You can't "force" someone to do anything. Unless you want some serious backlash. Just keep setting an example. Teach your children yourself if you must or let them choose their own path in life. Eventually they will anyway.

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 6:00 PM on Jun. 8, 2009

  • You can't "force" anyone to do something they don't want to do.

    Answer by Laura1229 at 6:00 PM on Jun. 8, 2009

  • I'm not sure forcing your dh to go to church would set the best example for you in regards to religion for your children. But how could your force your dh to go anyway? Isn't it a personal choice, and only for him to make?
    Now, if he has changed his thoughts on his beliefs, he should at least talk with you about it so that you know what to expect and you'll know IF you are in it alone as far as religion goes.

    Answer by sahmamax2 at 6:01 PM on Jun. 8, 2009

  • i think that more important than any church is to teach abt having a personal relationship with god.. church is one hour one day a week.... for me its more important that my child realizes he has acsess to god through prayer at any time and that god want to know your child personally and to be his friend in everything..

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:04 PM on Jun. 8, 2009

  • Forcing him into it is a certain way to assure that YOU will be the only one in the family going to church within a couple of months. At least willingly...the kids will go along till theyr'e old enough to say no.

    Answer by gdiamante at 6:12 PM on Jun. 8, 2009

  • What happened to his promise / agreement? Is he a man of his word or not?

    My husband was raised by atheist, believing in science/materialism. As a teen, he came to Christianity. But because of his childhood, he thought going to church was overkill. He was ok with MY taking the boys to church, but the fact that he didn't come with us made it appear that this was some dumb quirk of mom's. By the age of 10 or 11 they were resisting it (because "it's boring"). Just at the age when they could most use being around folks who revere God and live by their values, they were turning away because their dad wasn't leading by example. He was and is entirely Christian in his beliefs, he just didn't realize the effect he was having. Tell your husband about that. He owes it to them to act on the 3rd commandment. Right now, he is upholding NO religion as the proper way of life. That's what they are seeing: Religion isn't worth the bother.

    Answer by waldorfmom at 6:18 PM on Jun. 8, 2009

  • No I would not approach it that way. You husband is a grown man that can make his own choices. You can ask him but if he says no, respect and honor that. You will do far better to just go yourself and be HIS witness and let God take care of your husband. Forcing him will only get in the way of what God wants to do in your lives.

    Answer by Shaneagle777 at 6:25 PM on Jun. 8, 2009

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