I was in an abusive marriage, and he knows this. He tries so hard to make me feel secure and safe. The problem is he is trying so hard, and he is telling little fibs to do so. Things like saying he's been in martial arts since he was 8, which I would believe except he then says his parents don't know about it. Or he'll embellish something, like his military history, make it sound like he did more than he could have, considering how long he was in, and when. I know he's only trying to impress me, make me believe that he can protect me, but he doesn't need to say these things to do so. How can I let him know I know he's fibbing without totally humiliating him? I know he doesn't lie to me about big things, I've checked up on him. It's just little things, actually just the two things I mentioned. Any suggestions?
Asked by Anonymous at 7:42 AM on Jun. 9, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by LoriKeet at 7:51 AM on Jun. 9, 2009
Answer by homealone_10 at 7:48 AM on Jun. 9, 2009
Answer by Bmat at 7:51 AM on Jun. 9, 2009
Just make sure it doesn't snowball. I dated a guy that had little fibs about his military and he ended up crushing my life. He took things from me and sold them, when I asked where everything was he didn't know. He told me he paid rent and then I got evicted on xmas eve after coming home on my lunch break to find him getting arrested. Not saying this would happen to you my guy was a jerk but it made me put my guard up. Point of the story I don't like any fibs and I'll ask myself/"him" if he doesn't tell me the truth about that what else is there?
Answer by HolliBerry21 at 7:59 AM on Jun. 9, 2009
Answer by NannyB. at 9:17 AM on Jun. 9, 2009
Answer by Dannee at 9:55 AM on Jun. 9, 2009
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