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help with my 6 year old

he was pooping his pants he been potty train for a year now since he started talking right around his 5th birthday becasue of his addnoise were bad and he had to get tubs put in got his tonsils too all on the same day since feb of last year he stop wearing pull up just underwear n now he been pooping in his underwear so my boy friend put him in a pull up becasue he was getting his under wear ruined and we had to throw them in the trash and now since he got put in a pull up and justput him back in under wear and now he peeing in his pants

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 6:17 PM on Jun. 9, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • To clarify- If he just started talking at 5, does he have any other delays? Is he pooping all the way in his underwear or just smudging them up? The last part of what you wrote- are you saying that when you put him in the pull up the last time he kept them clean or not?
    pat7879

    Answer by pat7879 at 9:59 PM on Jun. 9, 2009

  • when we put in pull up he poop and peed and them and now we put back underwear and he had pee 3 time today yes he started talking at age 5 no he poops in them ether runny or hard thank u
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:11 PM on Jun. 9, 2009

  • I'm not really sure I followed you correctly, but I would have him checked for other delays. Also, children who start having accidents after having been potty trained could be dealing with psychological issues. That's one of the major signs of abuse. I'm not saying that's what's going on, just something to look out for

    Trasee

    Answer by Trasee at 3:42 AM on Jun. 10, 2009

  • I agree with trasee, some kids who have been sexually abused revert back.
    tabtabmom

    Answer by tabtabmom at 8:36 AM on Jun. 10, 2009

  • thank u he hasnt been with no one besides his dad and i
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:15 AM on Jun. 10, 2009

  • he has been potty train for a year the peeing in the tolet but he still wasnt pooping train yet he still still went in his pants and he was pooping alot in his pants n his dad put him in a pull up becasue he was getting his under wear ruided by pooping in his under wear n now the we started to put him back in under wear he has been peeing in his under wear again i dont hit or spank him but his dad does he kinda mean i told him not to that but he wont listen i had his dad to read your messenges so he can under stand and stop what he doing to him i told him to just sit him down on the love seat and talk with him
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:26 AM on Jun. 10, 2009

  • Is your son fighting for control over anything else...potty training is such a control issue among other things!! its the last bit of freedom your son has...and yes i agree with the other ladies..it could be psychological....hmm...if it continues..id def have him checked..and being mean about it isnt going to help..befirm..not MEAN and no spankings for honest accidents!
    sweetstkissez22

    Answer by sweetstkissez22 at 10:47 AM on Jun. 10, 2009

  • Is your son fighting for control over anything else...potty training is such a control issue among other things!! its the last bit of freedom your son has...and yes i agree with the other ladies..it could be psychological....hmm...if it continues..id def have him checked..and being mean about it isnt going to help..befirm..not MEAN and no spankings for honest accidents!

    i have tryed to get the doctor to do some thing about it but he said theres nonething that he can do no just potty train he had to get a new tub in today so hope fully it might help or maybe a potty chair
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:31 PM on Jun. 10, 2009

  • if he does not have a learning delay, i would stick to the underwear- NO pull ups, stop spanking him for it, use positve reinforcement. Meaning, if he goes in the potty, tell him how great it is and wonderful, give him stickers, candy, whatever. If he messes his pants, he is old enough to start cleaning up alot of it himself. don't scold, just say, okay you did it, you need to go clean up. Stick close by and assist so he doesn't make a bigger mess cleaning it up.
    I know it's extremely frustrating, because you know he's old enough. Trust me- let it go. The potty isn't really the issue, it never is. It's something else. More attention, less scolding, less stress. That does NOT mean you are doing a bad job. Some kids are more sensitive, some more controlling. As parents we can get mean and frustrated before we even realize it.
    That said, it sounds like Dad and son need some good positvie bonding time.
    pat7879

    Answer by pat7879 at 10:15 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • thank u so much i dont get on him or any thing its his dad that spaanks him n hits him
    That said, it sounds like Dad and son need some good positvie bonding time. they do do things togther like right now they are out side in the yard planteing a plant togther
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:07 AM on Jun. 12, 2009

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