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I need some help!

Well I consider my self an experienced mom I have 5 children they are 9,4,3,1 and 6 weeks. I always wonder why women on this site bash new moms??? We have ALL been there before.. Why can't we just offer some advice and move on. How would you feel if when you had your first child people bashed you all the time for your decisions?? I hate when I sign on and see posts and people are just being so rude to new moms yes I know a lot of us are tired of the "My child is running a fever what do I do" posts but I think we need to just support them instead of criticizing them.

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Asked by Anonymous at 7:56 AM on Jun. 10, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • I agree, but it seems that sometimes this site is overrun with person too ready to jump on someone.

    Answer by PaceMyself at 7:58 AM on Jun. 10, 2009

  • I agree, sort of, sometimes I have seen people on here that are probably not fit to be a parent. Asking insane questions that shouldnt have to be asked. I dont believe I ever give any rude responses, but there I have been times that I have tried to give a mom a wake up call.

    Answer by mom2twobabes at 8:01 AM on Jun. 10, 2009

  • I agree with mom2twobabies

    Answer by rachel_07 at 8:06 AM on Jun. 10, 2009

  • Sometimes people just have to be nasty. I am an experienced mom as well but sometimes I have a question that might seem like I should know or whatever... I posted a question one day about something adoption related (4 of my 5 are adopted) and people who know NOTHING about adoption posted the most insane and frankly STUPID answers - it was clear they didn't even read the full question or maybe they didn't understand it - one person told me I have a negative view of adoption and was warping my son. ROFL I about fell off my chair laughing because there was NOTHING negative about adoption in my question... I just finally deleted it and decided that people who just like to read what they write were responding and I don't need that. LOL

    I try very hard to be positive and upbeat when I answer questions - I probably don't always succeed but there's never a need to bash anyone. We're all people here - we all need love and support.

    Answer by AAAMama at 8:33 AM on Jun. 10, 2009

  • i always remember my first time stuff and my oldest is 12 now. so i try to help if i can i dont bash i do however dilike the post could i be pregnant or i missed my period could i be.. i think if u think u are take a test. but i just ignore thoes post. i dont reply anyways i still have a few first like tween questions cause i havent had that stuff yet ( dealing with kids and kids pms ) and even though i have been threw fevers sometimes i do wonder what should i do should i worry and i have to think lol. but most of my questions are whats for dinner lol. i run out of ideas and need u ladies to help me and give me ideas. but i agree we all have firsts and need to remember we were there once and try to help out.

    Answer by tabbys4 at 8:33 AM on Jun. 10, 2009

  • I don't bash those asking legitimate questions, but I do get annoyed when moms APPEAR to be clueless or not caring--especially when they have typical children, or "are afraid" to see a specialist because their child might have a medical issue or developmental delay (as I have two autistic children). I also have a hard time understanding why some women are more concerned over their abusive (physical, verbal and emotional) boyfriends and "sperm donors" instead of making their children their primary concern.

    If someone has a legitimate concern or question (which I think comes across in the post), and I think I can lend reasonable, well-thought out advice, based on MY experiences, I will...otherwise I move along to the next question.

    Answer by LoriKeet at 9:04 AM on Jun. 10, 2009

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