My kids are teen and preteen age and have had scheduled visitations with their dad for past 6 yrs. Four years ago he stopped paying child support and now I want to re-instate the court order by filing to garnish his wages where he's employed. We were on a very nice system where he would pay half for everything that came up for expenses. But I noticed everytime I would ask for half of something, it was like pulling teeth, and then he calls me an asshole after he pays me, and then follows by saying I'm a selfish and unfit mom. I could tell giving me money for our kids was not something he wanted to do. So I feel I have no choice but to start the legal child support payments on him once again, but, my fear is that this will enrage him. Should I keep the peace for 4 more years till my kids are grown and then go after him for back support? Need some strong advice here.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 1:28 AM on Jun. 11, 2009 in General Parenting
Answer by funnyface1204 at 1:38 AM on Jun. 11, 2009
Answer by JPsMommy605 at 1:38 AM on Jun. 11, 2009
O I would get child support in a heartbeat! He had those kids to and should taking care of them financially to!! Its not fair for you to have to pay for everything if you don't than you are giving him the easy way out!! I wouldn't care if he gets pissed you don't have to live with him!!lol!! honestly its not fair for you to have to do everything!!
Answer by SD777 at 1:42 AM on Jun. 11, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 1:49 AM on Jun. 11, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 2:09 AM on Jun. 11, 2009
I agree with the SIL that you should not talk about this with the kids, but you should still go through the courts and get it. If he is calling you names and saying bad things about you when ever he has to pay for anything, than it needs to be handled by the courts so that there will not be as much of this happening to your face or in front of the kids. At least if it goes through the courts you are not having to hound him to get the money for their activities (and trust me with High School you are going to need it) and there is really no way for him to dodge it. The kids however should not be a part of this decision. They should not have to hear about what names their dad calls you for making him pay. They should not have to hear about how hard it is to get their father to help pay for things. If you still feel like bringing them in on it talk to a few professionals and see what they say.
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 4:34 AM on Jun. 11, 2009
Answer by tropicalmama at 8:14 AM on Jun. 11, 2009
Answer by salexander at 10:50 AM on Jun. 11, 2009