I told my now ex on Monday that he never has to see me or hear from me again because obviously wants to be left alone. He is an alcoholic and only comes around every once in awhile before shutting us out again. Then he treats me like crap and ignores me. Right before I sent this e-mail, he had ignored me for four days, even avoiding plans that he had made with me.
The past two days I have received an e-mail from him. The first was telling me that he will give me what I want and leave me alone. The second he said that the longer he is ignored, the more final it becomes.
I just don't know what to do, he ignores me all the time because he feels like it or because of his "problems" and when it is the other way around, he can't handle it and now I'm the bad guy. Plus, I don't feel like I am ignoring him, I told him that he will never have to hear from me again.
I love him but I know that he will never change.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:01 PM on Jun. 11, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by admckenzie at 12:19 PM on Jun. 11, 2009
Answer by Dannee at 12:32 PM on Jun. 11, 2009
He is controlling you. He knows that you care about him, you may not love him, but he knows that he is important to you. Because of this he is taking advantage of you and his child. The most important thing you need to do is move on for your family's sake. He thinks that you will sit around and wait for him and that should not be the case. You need to show your kid that you all are more important than what your ex will give you credit for. For your sake move on. If he sees that you are not waiting for him it might wake him up a bit. If not, then it is his loss. You need to be happy though. Don't say anything else to him. At this point let it be up to him, but when your kid get older tell them that it was his choice. The more your kids are around him the more likely they are to become alcoholics themselves.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 1:17 PM on Jun. 11, 2009
Answer by jaimie175 at 1:48 PM on Jun. 11, 2009
Answer by alinker at 5:50 PM on Jun. 11, 2009