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Are us woman to blame for cheating?????

like not taking care of our men??????

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:04 PM on Jun. 11, 2009 in Relationships

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  • no

    Answer by staciandababy at 3:05 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • No. It is the man's problem for his inability to keep it zipped up and quarantined.

    Answer by lilbit022009 at 3:06 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • no. that'd be like blaming the man if the woman cheats. its the man's fault if he cheats, you didn't force him to run out and sleep with another woman, he made the choice not to tell the woman the problems in the relationship so they could be worked on together. instead he ran out and cheated

    Answer by vabchmommy at 3:06 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • uh, no.. that's a stupid question

    Answer by josiesmommy00 at 3:06 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • LMAO. seriously??

    Answer by tnm786 at 3:06 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • well why is it like that when a man cheats, but when a women cheats everyone says shes a whore or something crazy, maybe the women dont get what they need at home as well. i think its everyones fault, the mans, the womens, and the wife or girlfriends not just one person...i think they all had something to do with it, but i also think if youre gonna cheat just leave...why stay with someone if youre obviously not satisfied!

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:06 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • A woman is NOT to blame for her man's bad decisions, however, I do believe that there are two kinds of cheaters. There are the horny bastards who just want some tail and will not and can not be with just one woman. They are usually mentally instable or something...and only care for themselves. Then there are men who are in a bad marriage to begin with and the cheating comes a result of being unhappy and finding a woman who either fulfills emotional or sexual needs that is no longer there in the marriage. A bad marriage is the fault of both partners in most cases, and this does not excuse any bad behavior on either partner's part. BUT we are all weak and under the right circumstances we don't know what we might do. If this is the case, the marriage can sometimes be saved if the offending partner is truely apologetic and remorseful and the couple seeks counseling to resolve the issues leading to the affair in the first place.

    Answer by ErinHill226 at 3:08 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • Atleast that is what my dh seem to cheat bc they are not being taken care of at home.

    And this is coming from a man.

    Makes sense to me

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:10 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • ACCORDING to the book WHY MEN CHEAT (Oprah recently featured that was based on a real study of men who cheated) THE CHEATING MEN said the number one reason they cheated is bc they were not getting their emotional needs met at home. NOT sexual needs but emotional needs. Many times wives get caught up in the stress of bills or kids and other daily routine things and forget that a man thinks his home is his castle. If you disagree with this don't bash me, read the book then bash the author and all the men who spoke their truth to the author. Better yet, talk to your husband if he has cheated and I bet he says the same thing. Some other woman told him he was a stud or handsome or strong or whatever. Silly or not, men want to hear that. Protect your marriage by telling him he's hot or sexy or whatever. You know him better than anyone else. You can fix your marriage just like you let it get screwed up.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:11 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • in a lot of instances, I believe yes! If you refuse a man sex, he's gunna go elsewhere, plain and simple. Or if he feels inadequete he's gunna find someone who appreciates him even if it's just for a few minutes! Every action is caused by something the other person did. Just like fighting... one person says something that makes another person upset or whatever and pretty soon the other person fights back and it just keeps escalating!

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:12 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

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