Honestly, I think single moms worry too much about this, just from my own childhood, I guess. My mom thought the same thing (I felt VERY loved b/c I had tons of aunts, a sister and a mom, a dog and cousins). But she goes and marries a horrible, abusive stepfather to give us a "father figure" yikes! Then later on, pushes me to go see my dad who I barely knew at age 13 and to talk and move in with them. It was a nightmare and I did not need these male figures in my life. Despite the lack of decent male figures in my life: I have a very stable marriage for 10 years with my dh, I pick out great men, I've never been abused, etc. My husband is astonished. I just tell him I learned from my mom's mistakes.
Anyway...if you REALLY insist he or feel he needs a male figure. Big Brothers. YMCA, maybe get an uncle or cousin in the picture to spend 1 day a week with him? Get him in a youth group with a male as a youth pastor???
at 9:06 PM on Jun. 11, 2009