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cAN SOMEONE HELP

wHY CANT I GET OVER MY EX HE CALLS WHEN HE NEEDS ME AND I AM SO CONFUSED?

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MissTrevon

Asked by MissTrevon at 8:07 PM on Jun. 11, 2009 in Relationships

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  • You need to stop all communication so that you can start to heal and get over him. Tell that it is inappropriate for him to call you now that you are no longer together.
    coala

    Answer by coala at 8:08 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • if there is any way for you to block his calls, or change your number.. do it!
    you will NEVER get over him if you contine to talk to him, hearing his voice will make you more vulnerable ...
    xohcannizzo

    Answer by xohcannizzo at 8:16 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • You have a history with him. What has happened in the past influences who we are and who we will become. It is impossible to just eliminate him from your past. So you need to acknowledge that even though the association with him is part of you, that it is over and you need to set your sights forward. Realize that your past is certainly there, but that you need to move on. The best way to get him out of your present is to refuse all contact. This way, from here on, he becomes more and more in your distant past.
    Bmat

    Answer by Bmat at 8:17 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • Sweetie, that's called a Bootie Call. It's just to be sure you are still available. Now, if you choose not to be available, he will just go elsewhere. That is really very good.

    Choose to be unavailable. Don't let him call you. When the phone rings say, "I don't mean to be rude, but this conversation can't happen. Please don't call me again."

    Get your own life. It's good for you and it's good for your baby. That guy is an ex for a reason and you don't want your baby to be like him.
    LeftBrainy

    Answer by LeftBrainy at 8:21 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • I agree with the bootie call thing. He's just trying to keep you as an ace in the back pocket until someone else comes along.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:56 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • It's called being CoDependent and you allow him to use you. Only you can stop it. Learn to say "no". You are enabling him so that he can't grow up and learn to do it himself. You are NOT helping him by doing everything he asks you to do. You are stunting his growth as a person. Be kind and say NO to him or "Do it yourself" or "Figure it Out for Yourself"
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 9:10 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

  • oh please thats such a fake question , no answer to that.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:41 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

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