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Big sister problems

my 3 year old keeps throwing toys at or hitting her one month old sister, i've tried punishing her but she keeps doing it, I cant take toys away cause they're her big sisters toys too, i tried explaining that she cant play with her baby sister like that because she's too small but she still hits her sister, i dont know what to do, i dont do well with yelling or spanking and by the time DH gets home she forgets why she's in trouble


Asked by Anonymous at 3:03 PM on Jun. 12, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • It seems to me all kids have alittle jealousy when they get a new sibling. What I have found works the best, is to make her think this is her baby too, let her help you do things for the baby. Ask her to help you watch the baby, or pretend your putting her in charge of making sure the baby doesn't cry while your going potty or whatever! She needs to feel this is HER baby too, not just yours and that you have replaced her. This new baby belongs to all of you, the whole family, so you all need to help take care of her and make sure she is loved.

    Answer by robinann5 at 3:29 PM on Jun. 12, 2009

  • Obviously, what you are doing is not working. You must dicipline her. Dont wait until your husband gets home, cause that just teaches her that she can push your buttons and get away with whatever, and it doesn't matter. That gives HER the control. She is obviously seeking attention and getting it the wrong way. You have to address the issue at hand, but also think about spending time alone with her. Do something special with her every Saturday morning, like going to breakfast somewhere, no baby or Daddy. Most of all tho, she needs to be accountable for her actions and you are the one who needs to make it so, not your husband who has not been there all day.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:15 PM on Jun. 12, 2009