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daughters bday and husband

would you let your husband watch a hockey game instead of celebrate his daughter bday with her??? he works all day and then comes home in time to see the hockey game, instead of celebrating the daughters bday he puts hockey on then i turn it off and ask him to atleast sing happy birthday and have a peice of cake with her...but no he just says f&@k you and walks out. now he wants to know why im so mad at him, and tells me i have no reason to be mad at him! all i want is for him to sing happy birthday and eat one peice of cake! is that too much to ask on our daughters birthday?????? would you be mad or am i the only one?

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:50 PM on Jun. 12, 2009 in Relationships

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  • honestly,. this might sound mean, but i think he is selfish and inconsiderate

    how rude. that is just wrong. it is HIS DAUGHTERS BIRTHDAY and he can't be bothered to eat a piece of cake and sing to her coz he wants to park his ass in front of the tv to watch a hockey game? somebody his freaking priorities severly screwed up

    Answer by jennalms at 8:53 PM on Jun. 12, 2009

  • I agree with PP. Seriously, thats selfish.

    Answer by MommyLee08 at 8:55 PM on Jun. 12, 2009

  • No its not to much to ask and yes I would be upset as well. You need to tell you husband that what he did was extremely selfish and that he is not only hurting HIS daughter by being that way, but himself as well. Not to mention what it will do to you. You need to let him know that birthdays are special days for someone and he would not like it if you wanted to watch t.v. instead of celebrate his b-day. Let him know that treating you the way he did and his daughter will only cause you to resent him. IMHO... I think you husband needs to be told that you will not tolerate him hurting you or your daughter emotionaly and will take extreme measures to make sure it does not happen again. IMO... I would tell him, if he ever treated your daughter like that and you that I would flat out leave and let him see what its like without is family for awhile. He clearly has his priorities wrong. Family come first, self last.

    Answer by soonmommyof3 at 9:02 PM on Jun. 12, 2009

  • i too agree with the ladies above. that is F***ed up. i wouldnt stand for it. poor thing i hope ur daughter didnt have to witness that. im sorry but if i was you i would leave. obviously your daughter don't come 1st. what an ass.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:04 PM on Jun. 12, 2009

  • Also, could he not have recorded it for later? DVR and tivo are meant for things like that.

    Answer by soonmommyof3 at 9:08 PM on Jun. 12, 2009

  • thank you ladies, thats what i was trying to say before he got all huffy and puffy

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:22 PM on Jun. 12, 2009

  • and i guess he doesnt think enough to record it! i swear sometimes he has no brain what so ever!

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:23 PM on Jun. 12, 2009

  • Are you ladies listening to yourselves? I'm a female but it's not hard to see that men don't get into this sappy birthday crap that some women get into. I can't believe that you ppl think men should be practically castrated over wanting to do what HE wants to do after a hard day at work instead of some silly little made up birthday. Who made up that ritual anyway? Celebrate their life every day. Don't just give them a sugar high and some present they don't want once a year! Heck the kid probably would love to sit and watch the game with dad.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:26 PM on Jun. 12, 2009

  • Well we can see whats more important to him in his life and thats not his child.
    All we can really hope for now is i hope his team gets there asses kick for real and maybe his daughter can say something to him like hey thanks for having cake with me last night dad i don't know how old she is but if shes old enough then make him feel like a piece of shit for not singing happy birthday or eating a piece of cake.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:26 PM on Jun. 12, 2009

  • anon 926, birthdays are a big deal in my family. always have been and always will be, i wanted 5 minutes tops out of HIS time to sing to his daughter and have cake with her, he has HIS time everyday, he comes home, dinner is on the table then he watches tv or gets on the computer or goes to sleep if hes tired that day, everyday. i had one day for him to hang out with his daughter and he couldnt do it, so yeah i think its a big deal. and also after he would have eaten the cake and sang to her he was gonna go watch the game, i was fine with him watching the game. but 5 minutes of his time is all i wanted.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:39 PM on Jun. 12, 2009

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