My husband and I discussed while I was pregnant how we would both work after the baby came. We decided that I would get a daytime job and he would keep his graveyard positon and while one person was at work the other would be in charge of watching our daughter.. My mom told me I needed to go ahead and look into daycare (Even though she is only 2 weeks old) that way I could find one I liked and could afford by the time she was old enough to be taken by one. I don't like the option of daycare..so I was telling my husband about it in passing and he said he thought it was a wonderful idea. I am finding myself annoyed and becoming a little bitter at the fact that he is being selfish. That it's ok for me to work all day and sit up all night with our daughter but he wants me to put her in daycare so that he can sleep all day while i'm at work. I know that sounds horridly selfish of me.. How do I get over it? I need help.Answer Question
Answer by ClaireW at 1:39 AM on Jun. 13, 2009
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Answer by lacyjones at 10:06 AM on Jun. 13, 2009
Answer by Debbie062008 at 10:07 AM on Jun. 13, 2009
First off, I would say, that father's don't babysit!!! They are parents too. Which is a comment a lot of people make. Its so old fashioned it should be banned.
That being said, your arrangement would be harder on him than you, so there's no reason to be bitter.Â Eventually your baby will sleep through the night at some point, and will be awake all day. UnlessÂ you want your child on his schedule and then baby will be awake all night when you are trying to sleep, which isn't generally considered healthy for anyone. Your DH will need to sleep at some point and baby will be active during the day whereas when you are trying to sleep baby will be asleep too.
Answer by Lesli at 10:26 AM on Jun. 13, 2009
Answer by Bmat at 11:05 AM on Jun. 13, 2009
Your baby is only 2 weeks old, 6 when you can start your own. She will be sleeping most of the day and night. Your DH will be able to sleep when she is sleeping. I don't think it is fair that you both have to work and he gets to stay home with out the responsibilities of your baby. At 6 weeks the baby does not sleep through the night, so while you are at work, he is sleeping and dd is at daycare. While you are at home, he is at work and you have to get up with your dd. Doesn't sound fair to me. I would look to find a way to make some money working at home or find a part-time/ weekend job. You can still bring in some money and get a lot of time with your dd. Also, if you work part-time during the day, your DH can still watch her a little bit and save money on day care.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 11:35 AM on Jun. 13, 2009