I think its easy to mistake their lack of listening as them being misbehaved. Mostly, they're going through a lot of phases and discovery at this age. They aren't being defiant or demanding to be difficult, but because they are trying to figure out boundaries and assert their independence. Its not like when an adult behaves the same way. I have a 14 month old that's all about trying to get away with everything and push limits, but even if she does the same behavior 100 times, I just stay calm and consistant and trust that she'll eventually understand that we do not touch the tv buttons or run past the sidewalk etc etc as she gets older. Also, I assume they're demanding because they don't understand time. If they have a need, they want it immediately filled. I try to use the word "patient" when she has to wait so she knows she'll have to wait to get what she wants, but I try to be quick and thank her for being patient.
at 9:45 PM on Jun. 13, 2009