I formerly belonged to a Christian church that I've attended for many years. I recently quit going, and everytime I see the preacher, his wife and kids, or anyone from the church, they pretty much ignore me or act like they're better than me. It makes me extremely mad becuase I love going to church, the reason I quit was becuase I was sick and tired of going on Sundays and Wednesdays, only to sit behind some teenager, or even adult, that has their cell phone out, playing games, and text messaging during the sermon. My aunt, who's raising 3 of her grandchildren, let them run around and throw toys everywhere during the sermon, and when they come sit by me, all they want to do is play and scream. I'm not there to babysit or watch someone play with their phones. Is it wrong for me not to want to attend because of this reason, or should I let it go and ignore it?Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 3:56 PM on Jun. 14, 2009
Answer by ColleenF30 at 4:34 PM on Jun. 14, 2009
Answer by nysa00 at 4:38 PM on Jun. 14, 2009
Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 5:25 PM on Jun. 14, 2009
As far as being treated badly by the pastor and family you must understand that pastors and families have a tremendous drain on their time. A lot of people think that the pastor just preaches on Sunday and Wednesday, that is no where near to all they do. People expect the pastor and his family to be available anytime, all the time. They do counseling, supervise the running of the ministries of churches, some of the business aspects of the church, visit hospitals, etc. Also, if you are only there on Sunday and Wednesday they may just not have had the chance to know you. Think about it like a classroom teacher at a high school. They teach 6 classes and have between 30-40 students minimum. That adds up to 240 students. You don't expect your child's teacher to know every little thing about your child or to be your child's friend. Same with a pastor and by extension his family.
Answer by teamquinn at 6:34 PM on Jun. 14, 2009
As to the texting, playing games, etc. that is just plain rude. To the pastor or speaker. However, I must question if they are playing quietly, that is the phone isn't ringing or the game making noise why can't you just ignore them.
As far as children playing in church that is why my kids have Sunday School and Children's service. They can be taught in an age appropriate manor and have play time and breaks as needed. Lets face it after the music church is real boring for children, probably up to Jr. High age. Even at that age I allowed my older one to bring a book and read quietly.
Unfortunately there will always be rude people in life, and often those in charge are unwilling to risk offending them. So it then becomes a situation of how do I deal? I can't change them I can only be responsible for me and how I cope.
Answer by teamquinn at 6:40 PM on Jun. 14, 2009