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okay during our first pregnancy...wich we lost, he wasn't very excited at all. now, he's completely exstatic about concieving...says he really wants twins this time...what the hell happened to him? i was so suprized to hear him say he really wants this, this time around...seriously, where was the change...why now and not then???

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Asked by melissacoulter at 7:52 AM on Jun. 16, 2009 in Trying to Conceive

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  • in my opinion maybe during your first pregnancy he didn't feel he was ready to a dad, or maybe he didn't think you guys were finacially ready. Maybe now he feels more secure with where you guys are in life, finace wise, and maybe he's finally ready to be a dad.

    Answer by vgiron at 7:54 AM on Jun. 16, 2009

  • Maybe the loss kicked him in the butt about what it's like to have a baby. If you've never had a loss or had trouble concieving it's easy to take having a baby for granted. But once you've had a loss or struggled to get pregnant you know what a gift it is, not just the baby, but the pregnancy as well. Maybe he's realizing this now in a way he didn't before.

    Just wanted to add that not all women do take it for granted, but that it can be easier to take it for granted if you've never struggled with loss or infertilily.

    Answer by canadianmom1974 at 8:28 AM on Jun. 16, 2009

  • my dp did something similar!!! We had a mc and he could care less... he wasnt ready to be a dad... then not long after we fell pregnant and he asked me to terminate the baby... i did... and now we are ttc and he wants to be a dad sooooo bad!!!!

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:25 AM on Jun. 16, 2009

  • Men can be confusing sometimes. I'm sure it was a wake up call for him. Don't worry about how he felt before, enjoy that he's excited and focus on that. Good luck to you!

    Answer by Sillylins at 11:13 AM on Jun. 16, 2009

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