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How do you deal with your child living as their borned opposite gender?

It's one thing to deal with your child either being Gay/or Lesbian, but what if your child try to be the opposite sex than what they were born (Not having a sex change, but acting & dressing as such). How do you deal and/handle this?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:12 PM on Jun. 16, 2009 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • love them...be there for them...talk to them...
    Mamaof2boys0709

    Answer by Mamaof2boys0709 at 10:20 PM on Jun. 16, 2009

  • I am posting anon for someone else's privacy here.

    I have a friend that recently completely gender reassignment surgery. She was born a hermaphrodite. The doctors told her parents that it was common to wait until 5 or so to decide what gender the child's hormones are. By the age of 5, a child will assert him/herself into the "typical" gender roles and won't have had too much exposure to anything that would risk their medical oddity being revealed. Instead of waiting, her parents decided they wanted a boy. She lived her entire life as a "drag queen" because of that decision. She got no support from her family, and ran away when she was 13. She was able to get her legal guardianship transferred from her parents to her aunt, who was supportive. There are groups, books, and counselors that can help you adjust and cope if you need them. Find resources to help you help your child. (s)he will need it now more than ever. Good luck.
    Mom1Stepmom1

    Answer by Mom1Stepmom1 at 2:22 AM on Jun. 17, 2009

  • And then I forgot to post anon. Well hell!
    Mom1Stepmom1

    Answer by Mom1Stepmom1 at 2:23 AM on Jun. 17, 2009

  • YOU DEAL WITH THIS THE SAME WAY YOU WOULD DEAL AS IF THEY WERE TO COME OUT TO YOU BEING GAY. THIS IS ALL PART OF HOMOSEXUALITY. MY DAUGHTER HAS FRIENDS WHO LOOK VERY MUCH LIKE A MAN, AND THEY ARE NOT INTERESTED IN CHANGING THEIR SEX. IT IS JUST A PART OF WHO THEY ARE.
    older

    Answer by older at 1:30 PM on Jun. 17, 2009

  • Just don't let it come between you and your child! Just love her for the person she is....and let her figure it all out with you being supportive the the background. This isn't your issue, it is her issue. You are just playing a supportive role...and being there for her is all you can do!
    BJoan

    Answer by BJoan at 11:36 AM on Jun. 24, 2009

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