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4 year old afraid to die

Well my son just turned 4 year old and 3 days ago he had a major melt down that lasted about 30 minutes. He just kept rambling on and on about how he doesn't want to die. He said something about dying and DH said that everyone dies sometime and that started it! I am not sure where it even came from since no one close to us or any animals have died. He goes to preschool so he may have picked it up there.

We are pantheist and do not believe in heaven/hell or God as a being or reincarnation, but he kept asking if he would come back to live after dying and DH finally said that some people believe you do, but we don't know for sure. He has continued to bring this up at least 3-4 times a day since then, but not nearly as bad as the first time. Any ideas on how to get him over the fear of dying?


Asked by Anonymous at 7:28 AM on Jun. 18, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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Answers (2)
  • Just keep talking through it. He has learned a big concept and now he has to take the time to process it to his satisfaction. Just keep answering his questions as best you can, when you don't know the answer, seek out someone who does. But just keep answering - this is his way of ordering his thoughts so as to be able to grasp the concept. When he is satisfied, he will move on.

    Answer by JPsMommy605 at 9:43 AM on Jun. 18, 2009

  • This is actually age appropriate and it will pass, just be patient.

    Answer by rkoloms at 12:32 PM on Jun. 19, 2009