My 14 year old son is a great kid. He has some close friends but not to many. He is not very popular with his peers. He is not the sports jock but is a great swimmer. Kids but him down for that. He is very bright ant does well at school. I guess the best way I can describe him is always a bridesmaid never a bride. I don't want him to always be the one to get all the attention but alittle would be great. His self confidence and self esteem have taken a beatin. He doesn't choose to do things anymore because he says why bother anymore I never get picked or no one likes me. I don't know what to do for him.Answer Question
Is he in swimming as a sport? I'd get him into lessons, where he'd meet other kids with similar interests. To a large extent, at his age, he needs to put himself out there--you can't do it for him, and if you tried he'd get razzed even more. He may need counselling--there are teen groups so he realizes he is not alone. There is nothing wrong with being a strong academic--they can compete too. If his issues are related to bullying you must be involved, but it could be his age and a phase too. This is a very sensitive time for him. Talk, observe, but don't hoover over him. All very hard to do and not do, at the same time. Let him tell you what he wants, how he would like to change. Go from there.
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