My grandmother has Alzheimers, she really has no censor button anymore. She says whatever she thinks in her head.
We thought the nursing home she was in was nice, but over the past 5 months they have moved her 5 times. Several times for calling people names. The last time she constantly complained to the nurses that they moved her in a hall with a bunch of retards. This time they moved her it was because she kept calling the lady in her room a hag.
They also call frequently complaining b/c my grandmother asks for assistance from the aides for VERY frequent bathroom visits.
My question is; What exactly do they want us to DO about it. She is not in her right mind. She cant be controlled, especially her mouth and her bathroom habits....is that not what they are being paid to do, handle her?
Is this normal for a nursing home, should we move her? Whats going on?
With an Alz patient, it is hard to know when to push, and when to hang back. At times visiting my dad brings him comfort, other times he gets agitated and becomes a "flight risk". Sometimes, remembering us gives him happy moments and it's just like old times-only in a nursing home. Other times, remembering us makes him realize that he's not home, which is where is wants to be, but doesn't understand why he can't. We are trying to find the balance between visiting too much or not enough. He thrives on routine, his routine, not ours. I am sorry, I know how you feel. If your g-ma is in an Alz unit, receiving the best care possible, then when they call you, ask if there is anything that you can do. If not, thank them for letting you know her new room # and hang up. If there is a better place that she can be, check into it. I don't agree with her being moved so much, however, I know sometimes they have no other choice.
Answer by doodlebopfan at 6:06 PM on Jun. 19, 2009
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Answer by funnyface1204 at 5:04 PM on Jun. 19, 2009
(con't) Yes, the burden of care is on the facility, however, they are required to keep you informed. Perhaps when they call with a report of another change, ask them if you need to do anything. Does there need to be a change of medicine? Do they think you need to visit (if you are able to do so), otherwise don't guilt yourself into feeling bad. I know how guilty I, my siblings, my step-mom, etc. all feel in not being able to do anything to make him better. Sometimes we can't even comfort him. It hurts because as you said earlier, "she's not the same person anymore". If you aren't in an Alz support group, perhaps finding one could help. http://www.alz.org/index.asp I wish I could help more. Hugs to you!
Answer by doodlebopfan at 7:25 PM on Jun. 19, 2009
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