While dating, I found an email from a gay man to him talking about getting together and after our first pregnancy i found gay porn on his work computer but he says it wasnt his, also while pregnant he had ordered porn at our home while i was at work. He says the email was just stupid and nothing and I know hes had an encounter with a man in jail in his past when he was young years ago.we dont have regular sex especially when im pregnant. Now on baby #2 im just tired of wondering, but he is a great father and provider but we have no intimate relationship. I always wonder if hes fantasyzing about men or using porn still. Im tired of the fear, should i go with my own feelings and stop waiting to find out something, he will never tell me if he was gay or bi?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:12 AM on Jun. 20, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 9:17 AM on Jun. 20, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:18 AM on Jun. 20, 2009
Tell him, "I think you're gay or bi" and see what his reaction is. Honestly if he is and he is just not comfortable with that aspect of himself that isn't fair to him or you. Both of you deserve to be loved and satisfied intimately and it isn't going to happen if he isn't honest with himself. Try just having an open conversation with him about how you feel. You both deserve happiness and even if you do divorce you can still be friends. One of my best friends is actually a gay ex-boyfriend of mine.
Answer by ajguinn at 9:19 AM on Jun. 20, 2009
Answer by Bmat at 9:25 AM on Jun. 20, 2009
There is a few things you need to do and think about it.. Ask him if he is Bi, or gay..Then you have to decide if your going to leave him or stay with him.
It sounds like you knew of this before you got married and had 2 kids by him..So you should have looked into this then..Not 2 kids later.
Answer by louise2 at 9:50 AM on Jun. 20, 2009
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