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What would you do/how would you feel?

If a guy you used to be interested in waited until after you were married and happy before telling you he had always liked you.

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Asked by mommymonkey at 9:43 PM on Jun. 20, 2009 in Relationships

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  • too little, too late

    Answer by HisMommySince07 at 9:45 PM on Jun. 20, 2009

  • it wouldn't matter cause if i choose to marry my husband then he has to be pretty great

    Answer by melody77 at 9:50 PM on Jun. 20, 2009

  • I'd tell him to kick rocks

    Answer by nateandlo at 9:56 PM on Jun. 20, 2009

  • My thinking is that he only wants things he can't have, and that is the point of his "attraction". You are forbidden fruit so to speak. I would ignore it.

    Answer by Lesli at 10:00 PM on Jun. 20, 2009

  • i agree with Lesli, and would add that: now that you are not available, he's telling you of his attraction because now it's "safe". he doesn't have to deal with the implications of a real relationship or commitment to you. he sounds like a real weasel.

    Answer by Mamastheword at 10:46 PM on Jun. 20, 2009

  • I agree that he's telling you now that it's safe. He's missed the boat. Let it go.

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 11:00 PM on Jun. 20, 2009

  • Ugh, yes, some men (and women) prefer to chase married people because they know if they can they will just have their fun and no responsibility. This is a person who does not care about the person and while it may be flattering at the time, the underlying reason is ugly.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:18 PM on Jun. 20, 2009

  • Just for clarification- this question is to prove a point to my sister. She's falling for the guys BS, and I want to show her what other women think about it.

    Answer by mommymonkey at 11:55 PM on Jun. 20, 2009

  • it too late.. he had his chance.. and blew it.. he's either a drama starter.. or fatal attractions.
    either way.. he's only going to bring her heartache in the end.

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 12:06 AM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • I had this happen and I had a huge crush on the guy. I told him he was a dumbass. If he liked me he should've made a move but since he didn't I had to move on. And it really sucked because he was a really good friend to me but after I got married and wouldn't leave my husband for him he stopped talking to me.

    Answer by purpleducky at 8:18 AM on Jun. 21, 2009

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