I think you should live together first. you learn alot about someone when you live with them. So you can make a better judgement if you can tolerate what bothers you about them on a day to day basis before you get married. For example, when my ex and i were dating he was a sweetheart, when we moved in together, suddenly he got very controlling. I wasn't allowed to leave the house without him, he would hide my keys, take my car without asking, he had his many friends keeping tabs on me and we'd fight if i even went to mcdonalds drive thru without him. so when i left him, i didnt have to go through a messy divorce, i just packed up and left.
getting married is a big stressful move in itself, imo you dont need to have to learn all these new habits and quirks about your SO at the same time.
at 4:30 PM on Jun. 21, 2009