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Newborn Question

I just had my son on June 18th and he has his days and nights mixed up. How should I keep him awake during the day and sleep during nightime?

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Asked by tjandjenna at 9:00 PM on Jun. 21, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • Don't. At this age, parent on demand. Feed him when he's hungry. Change him when he's wet. Let him sleep when he's sleepy. Hold him when he wants. No schedules. Just try to make days more bright, noisy, active, and fun. At night, dim the lights, keep noises down or soothing, and just cuddle. Don't worry about this anyway. Babies don't work on day and night like we do.

    Answer by jus1jess at 9:13 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • Very well put jus1jess. Babies change so often that this will pass very quickly.

    Answer by missv66 at 9:16 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • jus1jess pretty much hit the nail on the head! i think it's pretty important to keep the lights dim in the middle of the night. if you need light to change a diaper or feed try the hallway light-it's what i do and it seems to help.

    Answer by jkt747 at 9:25 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • what she (jess) said! baby will figure it out eventually. btw, your baby and i share the same birthday! congratulations!

    Answer by kyriesmommy13 at 9:49 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • my dh said he kept both of his kids awake during the day since they came home from the hospitable he didnt let them sleep all day and be up all night...these r some of the few issues we deal with b/c im with the other girls on this eventually he will figure it out but if he still doing it at 6 months old then i would keep him up during the day as much as possiable only allowing short naps

    Answer by rainmommy at 10:14 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • Do not keep the baby awake. Let him run the show for the first couple of months and just follow his cues.

    Then you will have an overtired newborn and they are 100% harder than a newborn. Trust me... my DD was so alert that she wouldn't sleep sometimes and it was hard for her to settle and stay asleep. Really took a toll on us both

    Just take it slowly... make nights quiet, dark, boring and days bright, chatty and fun. He will work it out eventually.

    Remember newborns dont operate on the same 24 hours that we do. They actually work on 25 hours and they have 7-8 equal sleep and awake periods during this time. It isn't until they are older (like a couple of months) that they start to organise their sleep patterns into naps and a longer night. Then the distinction between night and day is important because you want them to have that longer stretch at night (medical definition of sleeping through the night is only 5 hours)

    Answer by mummylovebaby at 11:17 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

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