I have been dating this guy for a little over 6 months. He proposed to me and I said yes. He has always been the sweetest guy. He has never said or done anything to hurt me. He says he wants a family and all these things but he still spends alot of time drinking with his friends and smoking weed. I do not do any of these things. I just cant stand it. He is 27 years old and his friends are all 23 and under. They do not have families or responsibilities. I just cant see someone that wants to party and hang out with friends all the time actually being capable of handling family life. He seems to get really frustrated with us sometimes. I just do not know what to do because he is one of the nicest guys I have ever met and he loves spending time with us. Should I go ahead and marry him and give him and his friends time to grow up or should I call it quits and walk away?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:56 PM on Jun. 21, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Lesli at 11:00 PM on Jun. 21, 2009
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Answer by 2mothershelpers at 11:03 PM on Jun. 21, 2009
Being a DH and father means not going to the bar and partying with kids. Spending time should be what he would rather do. Ask him to reevaluate his priorities and decide weather or not he is really ready to be a part of a family. Just because he can be sweet does not mean he can be responsible.
Answer by MizLee at 11:05 PM on Jun. 21, 2009
As a wife of 37 years I'm going to tell you that if you loved him enough to say yes, then you've already answered your question. But then if you have doubts as to what you should be doing then maybe you answered to quickly to start with. Never go into a marriage with the idea that you can change the other person. You can't! I suggest you sit him down and tell him what you've written down and you'll know right off what you should do. But please don't go ahead if you have doubts. It's become to popular to go into a marriage with the idea that you can just divorce if it doesn't work out. Sometime love just isn't enough no matter how much you love him. Good luck! I'd love to hear what you decide to do in the end.
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