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how do i explain to my 3yo that daddy smokes mj?

we live in CA and my husband has a condition that allows for him to hold a medical license to smoke marijuana. he's a great father & is very responsible. he doesn't go out and drive and he doesn't smoke when he needs to watch the kids. but my daughter is at the age where she's starting to ask a lot of questions and i don't know how to explain this to her. when daddy goes outside, she'll ask "where's daddy going?" or "what's he doing?" and i have no clue what the right thing to say would be. he's not doing anything bad (imo) and he's not breaking the law. he needs it to deal with his condition. how should i answer my daughter's questions?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 11:07 PM on Jun. 21, 2009 in General Parenting

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Answers (29)
  • "Daddy is taking medicine that is bad for kids, it could make you sick. He will be right back."
    Marilynz_Mommy

    Answer by Marilynz_Mommy at 2:04 AM on Jun. 22, 2009

  • Tell her he is taking his medicine to make him feel better
    firethearson

    Answer by firethearson at 11:09 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • Make it short and to the point. Say, "Daddy is taking his medication." Leave it at that. If she asks another question, answer that one. No need to give her more info than neccessary.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:09 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • I agree with the pp, just tell him that he is taking his medicine.
    JeremysMom

    Answer by JeremysMom at 11:10 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • Why would you even tell a 3 year old something so stupid as this? There is no freakin way you can make that seem right, correct or responsible.. I don't care what it's for... so why would you try?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:11 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • Tell him not to smoke around the kid...that simple, kids dont need to be sec ond hand inhaling that..tell him to go outside medicine or not..thats the responsible thing
    mumma28

    Answer by mumma28 at 11:13 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • Can you just say his medicine? Or smoking but not what he's smoking?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:14 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • he does go outside. and he makes sure that she cant see him. he tries to be as inconspicuous as possible. but dd just wants to know where he's going. she's seen him on a few occasions when its raining and he goes on the porch and that's when she's asked, and i'd be clueless on how to properly respond.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:18 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • Would some of you ladies please read the entire post before replying with your judgemental answers? She said her dd asks, "Where's Daddy going?". She didn't say her husband is smoking around the little one.

    My aunt has similar issues and the medical weed is the only thing that helps. You would be ashamed for saying some of the things you are if you had to live in her shoes.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:19 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

  • ok i shouldve read the post better but i wasnt giving attitude, so i dont need one back... in that case, go with he's taking his medicine, but one day she might wanna actually follow him, so i know lying isnt always good, but it might help
    kids dont have to know everything
    mumma28

    Answer by mumma28 at 11:24 PM on Jun. 21, 2009

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