I'm 20 & he's 19.. we weren't really expecting everything that came with having a baby. I had to grow up & realize what I have to do for my child. It just seems like he thinks his only responsibility is to go work and make money for us & as a stay at home mom i'm supposed to do everything else. With little sleep and tending to Aidan during the day I feel like I'm doing everything!!Answer Question
Answer by Jenny301 at 12:36 AM on Jun. 23, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 1:08 AM on Jun. 23, 2009
Tell him what you need. Let him do it his way even if it is not perfect. Then thank him and make him feel special. When you two are around others ( Like family ) make sure that your brag about what a good father he is, how helpful he is etc. Because if you don't get help now, you won't in the future unless you are very clear about your needs. Be specific, many men need that especially new fathers. Don't say help me with the baby. Ask him to change the diaper or rock it. If he doesn't know how show him. But don't overly criticize they will use this as an excuse. Don't say I need help with the house. Ask him to vacuum or load the dishwasher. Again with the praise. Most men want to help but don't know how. If he is still stubborn about not doing anything. Leave him with the baby for 1/2 a day. Making sure it needs a diaper change, a feeding and a nap first. That usually opens their eyes quick. Worked for me along time ago.
Answer by CelticFaerie at 3:35 AM on Jun. 23, 2009
Answer by kara_g. at 9:47 AM on Jun. 23, 2009