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i feel as if there is a lot of bashing going on in my neighborhood .i feel as if i am living cafe mom in the real world with all the bashing that is going on.people talking about people behing there backs i dont know how to reconnect actually these people dont seem like they want to connect.people making friends with people that they were mad at before.but nobody making the connection with me.i am going to take some classes in the fall i am not sitting here all day with this.any ideas as to how i can reconnect??or what is going on?

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Asked by raineydays377 at 8:50 AM on Jun. 23, 2009 in Relationships

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  • maybe just stay away from the drama and the bashing. if they want to start highschool drama, then let them. it doesnt have to concern you. and it shouldnt. all i can say, is be nice and neighborly to them, but dont get involved in the gossip and bashing that they do. and thats true, it happens here alot. we are all women, we are all mothers, we want advice and to connect with other moms, it shouldnt matter if we have different views or raise kids differently, i think alot of people need to grow up and understand not everyone is identical to one another. that means ur neighbors too. dont get involved in it. its not worth it. you dotn have to be mean, but you can stay clear. thats what i would do. its not worth the time and stress.

    Answer by xhellxfirex495 at 8:58 AM on Jun. 23, 2009

  • Have a cook out and invite everyone so they can remember how much fun it is to all be together and enjoy the sense of community.

    Answer by teampalmer4 at 9:00 AM on Jun. 23, 2009

  • You can't connect with people who don't want to connect with you. I think maybe you should consider that these may be people with whom you really would not want to be connected. Instead, just be friendly when you have the opportunity and if there is a need in the neighborhood of which you are aware, try to meet that need. When you start to school, look around there for people who may be more in tune with your personality and better candidates for the friendships for which you are looking. We sometimes have to come to understand that those closest to us in proximity may not necessarily ever be the closest to us emotionally. So, just broaden your range of looking for friends. Look past those who live the closest, and see who else might be available to you.

    Answer by NannyB. at 9:02 AM on Jun. 23, 2009

  • Same happens in our neighborhood, but we just keep out of it. We're better off sticking to our real friends outside the hood than getting involved in the drama. Got enough of our own to deal with...we don't want or need anymore thanks! We still say hi and have an occasional conversation, but when it comes to the gossip we don't get involved. If you don't have something nice to say...

    Answer by rune2319 at 9:03 AM on Jun. 23, 2009

  • Deal with them individually and stay out of the fray! Don't try too hard to get connected with them, maybe being a little bit of an "outsider" in a situation like that is better. Avoid conversations about the other neighbors.... Let the relationships you may form develop slowly rather than rushing into them.

    Answer by BJoan at 9:47 AM on Jun. 23, 2009

  • Are you from Clubmom? If so, this is all you talk about, and have been talking about for years. Maybe others won't get this, but let it go. Move on.............

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:17 AM on Jun. 23, 2009

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