I keep reading this all over the answers section. People saying they taught their children how to behave... We have all met parents who say they wont do xyz discipline but have children running all over them. But by that same note, it is possible to try everything and simply have a child that is so willful or resistant that they behave differently than others.
Who do you attribute your child's success or failures to? Is it all your own efforts or the child's personality too? Or do you believe God plays a role in this too? Would you limit yourself to a certain style or approach for all of your children?
Answer by hypermamaz at 5:06 PM on Jun. 23, 2009
Answer by outstandingLove at 5:07 PM on Jun. 23, 2009
Thank you ladies... I want to clarify that I am not saying that moms deserve NO credit. I just think that the implication that there is a formula for success with all children is insane. Unless of course that formula is: do what ever it takes x infinity= your best work :)
I do attribute some of my son's successes to my work as a mom. But mostly I just get proud for him. I get thrilled to see HIM feeling confident and secure enough to obey or understand directions. I can't imagine saying "he is good because I taught him how" and I can't imagine assuming he would never test the boundaries, lol. He is after all my child and his father's son!
Honestly I want my kids to be a bit unruly at times. It gives me the opportunity to teach and it helps me know they are mine :) I also believe in being humble about our work as parents. I do believe that God gives us what we can handle.
Answer by CooksWife at 5:13 PM on Jun. 23, 2009
Answer by jessradtke at 5:52 PM on Jun. 23, 2009
Answer by justanotherjen at 5:56 PM on Jun. 23, 2009
As a developmental therapist I do firmly believe that there are some behavioral interventions that will work almost entirely across the board if they're done right. I think a lot of parents try things but just aren't consistent with them or expect immediate results then give up.
That being said, kids personalities definitely have an impact on how easy they are to guide behaviorally. And not all things work for all kids. Some just naturally want to please and others just want what they want when they want it.
As far as God is concerned, I would see that possibly there would be a lesson in life for the parent, a need for them to learn patience, or change how they listen to others or speak to others. It's certainly possible if you believe in a higher being.
Answer by bltcahill at 6:05 PM on Jun. 23, 2009
Answer by BaisMom at 6:43 PM on Jun. 23, 2009
Answer by TiccledBlue at 6:58 PM on Jun. 23, 2009
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Answer by salexander at 10:06 AM on Jun. 24, 2009