My father just passed away and I didn't care enough to visit with him,this haunts me ever since he died.I didn't make enough effort to show my care to him while he was sick,since he was terminally ill I couldn't really buy him a get well card and I looked everywhere for the perfect card and couldn't find it.Soon I kept putting off finding him a card and I gave him a few things but not enough to really say how I felt.We never got along so for me to reach out to him and have sympathy towards him was really hard.Now he's dead and I regret my selfish actions and I wake up every night thinking about how I didn't care.
My father is still alive, but i DO wonder about what i would do when he starts to get old & has no one. He was abusive to me & my mother. We actually spent most of my childhood running from him. But, he eventually quit drinking (he was a nasty drunk) and life changed for him, for the better. He got very spiritual & is trying his best as a human being. BUT, i do not feel close to him. He sends gifts for me & my daughter, & i don't even call him to say thank you. I did send him a fathers day card.....a late fathers day card. But i totally sympathise with you. I think i would do the same, and not give much care if he was on his death bed. But i know that i will feel guilt, as you are, once he dies. I would feel guilt that i never made an attempt to have a relationship with my father. So, i guess reading this was huge for me, even though i have no desire to contact him.
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