my husband has cheated on me twice in the past last time was 16 months ago and i forgave him twice.. i was determined to make my marriage work. well he was dirty texting a friend of mine and she couldn't stand what he was saying and she was forwarding all the messages to me and they were graphic where he wanted to u know what and all that..and how he wanted to meet up . i confronted him , he said it was all talk and that he was wrong and fudged up.. well i still kicked him out of the house last night. but i miss him i know how wrong that sounds.. cause he didn't tech cheat.. should i let him back in after a period of a break or file for divorce im just scared cause im a sahm and no income or job. im just so hurt and frustrated and confused right nowAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:36 AM on Jun. 24, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by josiesmommy00 at 9:39 AM on Jun. 24, 2009
Answer by ajguinn at 9:40 AM on Jun. 24, 2009
Answer by mamaada at 9:41 AM on Jun. 24, 2009
I wouldn't let him back. You said he cheated twice and what he was doing is emotional cheating and if your friend didn't forward those messages to you he would have kept doing it and maybe found someone else to cheat with. Yes you love him but it's not worth the heartache and disease he may bring home to you. I say it's time to move on and worry about yourself and kids. So sorry.
Answer by Christine0813 at 9:42 AM on Jun. 24, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 9:59 AM on Jun. 24, 2009
He did cheat on you with the texts, IMO! That is emotional cheating and he was attempting to do it with a friend of yours. That really over-steps what is appropriate. If you are trying to make yourself feel better by saying it wasn't technically cheating, then I think you need to think long and hard. He shows no respect for you as his wife, and no respect for your friendships and lacks any sort of boundaries regarding commitment. There is a big difference between missing and being scared of being alone. Look at what you want. He would have to take care of you and the kids if you divorced, but you would probably have to make changes like a job and housing. Think of STDs, and the example you two are setting as your children see what is going on btw you. No matter how you try to shield your kids, they see. Find your inner wants, needs, and own self-respect. I'm sorry, but I think you need to move on and up from him.
Answer by Teachermom01 at 9:59 AM on Jun. 24, 2009
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