BM last visited DS Sep of '08. She last called DS Feb of '09. She has not paid any child support. never sent a gift, or a card. didnt even call on his birthday. We have reason to believe she has moved because we sent a certified letter but it came back to us, so her where-abouts are currently unknown. Under California law we have grounds to file for termination of her parental rights after 6 months of no contact. But our laywer tells us she wants to wait until September so that it's been a year sense she visited. I dont know if i want to wait that long. DH's tour in Iraq will be ending in late November and he's stationed in Germany. It would be really cool if we could FINALLY move there. PLUS she has an earlier abduction charge, which is why she lost all custody (she maintains her paretnal rights, with supervised visitation) Should we listen to our lawyer, or try to talk her into an earlier date?
I would go with your gut on this one. Don't listen to the lawyer, what if this nut makes contact in the time he wants you to wait? YOU know the situation better than anyone. I can't stress it enough, GO WITH YOUR GUT!!!!! I have no tolerance for BM's who don't act like true MOM's being a SAH"step"Mom myself. Protect your family so you can all live together the way you are meant to. I truly wish you all the best.
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