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To all you PA-haters:

I have an example for you, true story, and I'm just curious as to the judgements all the PA-haters will make.

A friend of mine had a great job in the legal field, married a man who was an engineer. They made great money, bought a house, and she was on the depo shot. She gets pregnant anyway. No big deal, they're fine. She goes on the pill when she finishes breastfeeding, and gets pregnant anyway - with twins. At this point, it's smarter for her to stay home with the kids, as the difference in her salary and the childcare is less than 60 dollars monthly.

Still, this isn't a problem. Her husband gets transferred with his job and they have to move. The housing market was terrible, and it took well over a year for them to sell their home. During this time, one of their children had health issues and some had to be paid out of pocket. So, they're paying for some healthcare, a mortgage, as well as rent for their new..

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 11:46 AM on Jun. 25, 2009 in Politics & Current Events

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  • OP thats different... everyone wants to cry " bad things happen to good people".... while i get that 100%... those are NOT the ones people have problems with

    its the ones who abuse the system continue having kids when they cant afford em, and such the system dry... the people who don't even TRY to better for themselves they just expect the government to take care of them!
    JuLiAnSmOmMy317

    Answer by JuLiAnSmOmMy317 at 1:08 PM on Jun. 25, 2009

  • home. Fast foward 2 years, and he gets laid off when his company closes. He is having a terrible time finding employment, but is picking up odd jobs when he can.

    They are moving from their home in with some family until they can get on their feet, and they are also signing up for FS and Medicaid. They lost their savings with the health issues and with paying for two homes for over a year.

    So - are they deserving of PA? What else could they have done?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:49 AM on Jun. 25, 2009

  • True story? I think there are a lot of people that have stories similar to that...Things just go wrong and you gotta do what you gotta do.
    MommyKKay

    Answer by MommyKKay at 11:52 AM on Jun. 25, 2009

  • Oh, and let me add that they always lived within their means. When things got a little bit tight after twins, they sold his car and shared a mini-van. Have for years now. No huge homes, just what they need, and she's a huge coupon-cutter.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:55 AM on Jun. 25, 2009

  • Personally, I'm not against public assistance. i'm against certain people sitting on their butt collecting welfare and having kids because it's easier than going to work every day...

    There was this chick on some daytime talk show. She's like 14 years old, plans on having a baby (because she wants someone that will love her) and she wants to drop out of school and live on welfare because that's what her momma did...

    THESE are the kid of people that I think shouldn't get public assistance.
    christaberk

    Answer by christaberk at 11:57 AM on Jun. 25, 2009

  • The only thing I have against public assistance is there are too many people who use it as a career instead of a stepping stone. Your example is why public assistance exists.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:03 PM on Jun. 25, 2009

  • No one is against halp for those in NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEDDDDDDD like these people clearly are.
    momof030404

    Answer by momof030404 at 12:04 PM on Jun. 25, 2009

  • The only people who are against all forms of pa are the anons who are miserable themselves and just looking to pick a fight.

    It's just abused.
    lovinangels

    Answer by lovinangels at 12:24 PM on Jun. 25, 2009

  • She's like 14 years old, plans on having a baby (because she wants someone that will love her) and she wants to drop out of school and live on welfare because that's what her momma did... THESE are the kid of people that I think shouldn't get public assistance.


    What can you do short of forcible birth control and slavery or something? We as a society can't in all good conscience let her innocent baby starve because of her mother's and grandmother's bad life choices

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:47 PM on Jun. 25, 2009

  • What can you do short of forcible birth control and slavery or something? We as a society can't in all good conscience let her innocent baby starve because of her mother's and grandmother's bad life choices__________

    No, I agree that the baby shouldn't starve. HOWEVER, should the mother be allowed to sit around on her butt all day and do NOTHING? Not look for a job? Not go to school? Not be gainfully employed? Living off food stamps and welfare and medicaid just because she's too lazy to do something with her life??

    There should be some sort of REQUIREMENTS to receive public assistance. For example, a person should prove that he/she is in school, that he/she is employed but doesn't make enough to support a family, or that he/she is LOOKING for a job...

    Someone who uses PA so he/she doesn't have do to ANYTHING is one who should not get it.

    christaberk

    Answer by christaberk at 12:56 PM on Jun. 25, 2009

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