My ex wants to sign away his rights to my son so he doesn't have to pay support. He has chosen to never have contact with him to this point (he is now 3and a half) but threatened me with immediate visitation if I didn't agree. My husband agreed to adopt him, so my ex sent paperwork for us to sign. My question is can I add into paperwork that my ex will NEVER be allowed to contact him? Is that what is meant by a closed adoption?Answer Question
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 7:32 PM on Jun. 25, 2009
Whoa GrnEyedGrandma, what's that about? You and this child's mother may think that this man has no right to have a relationship with his child, but the child has every moral right to a relationship with him if he wants. Once this child is an adult he also has the legal right and I don't think he'd appreciate his mother trying to prevent him from having contact. Unless you know something that could effect this child's safety I don't know why your recommending she close the contact.
Answer by onethentwins at 7:58 PM on Jun. 25, 2009
Kreajalbr, Closed Adoption is where adoptive parents, birth parents and the adoptee have no information on each other and no continued contact. Nowadays it is generally believed that open adoption is much better for the adoptee and that the secrets and lies of the old days are bad. Plus, you never know when your son or your grandchildren may need medical history from your ex so you might want to keep tabs on his whereabouts.
Answer by onethentwins at 8:07 PM on Jun. 25, 2009
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 8:20 PM on Jun. 25, 2009
Answer by kreajalabr at 8:43 PM on Jun. 25, 2009
GrnEyedGrandma, there is no need to talk about me as if I "wasn't in the room". What your saying is that if a birth parent makes a choice to relinquish their legal parental rights then then it's ok to "change all contact nubers, emails etc. Make it hard for him", or indeed her, despite the fact that it's now believed that it's in the best interest of the adoptee to know their birth parents and openness in adoption is encouraged. That is what I comprehend. Is that not what you said?
Answer by onethentwins at 8:47 PM on Jun. 25, 2009
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 9:12 PM on Jun. 25, 2009
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 9:15 PM on Jun. 25, 2009
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 9:24 PM on Jun. 25, 2009
Answer by kreajalabr at 9:32 PM on Jun. 25, 2009
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