My DH works 3rd shift, 12 hour shifts, every other night. Several of his friends have the same strange schedule. To keep his schedule though, he needs to stay awake all night and sleep during the day, even on his nights off. Since he isn't working, I want him to be home, to sleep with me, and to help take care of our DD in the night. Most nights when he has off though he stays home until 9 or 10 and then goes out with his friends and comes home sometime between 3 and 6 am and then comes to bed and sleeps most of the day. They aren't going to bars getting trashed and I'm not worried about another woman, I just feel like he has a family now and should be home with us instead of out all night. But for him it is like someone who works first shift being out in the day and we're sleeping all night anyway, so does it really make a difference? I can't seem to make up my mind how I feel about it. What do you think?
My husband works from 7 p.m.- 7a.m. for 7 days then has 7 days off. It is hard to adjust back and forth so on his off weeks he sleeps during the day and stays up at night. He will normally spend time with us until about 10 or 11 until both me and our son are asleep. Some nights he stays home and plays on the computer and some nights he hangs out with his friends. Personally, this works for us because I get together time with him and he gets his down time to be by himself or with his friends. If you are still bothered by this, try compromising with him. See if he will stay home one night and go out on his next off night. He is still his own person and needs to be able to have friends that he can talk and hang out with his friends.
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