I spoke to my mother-in-law today, and she informed me that my husband's paternal grandfather's cancer has become terminal. It now falls to me to tell him this tragic news, and I just do not know how to do it. I have never had to tell someone such a thing before. He is already stressed and tired from work this week (he is a soldier), and I cannot imagine how to break this gently, or when the appropriate timing would be. Should I tell him when I pick him up? Should I wait until we are home? Should I wait until after he has showered, and eaten, and the baby is asleep? I could really use some friendly advice.Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 10:57 AM on Jun. 26, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 11:00 AM on Jun. 26, 2009
Answer by tyfry7496 at 11:30 AM on Jun. 26, 2009
Look, you just need to sit him down and tell him. You may want to tell him when the baby is there. It might help him to hold his baby while he is being told that his grandfather is dying. I know when my grandfather died it helped to comfort me to be able to hold my babies. Remembering how much my grandfather loved the little ones. You also need to remind him that he has lived a full and wonderful life. One that should not be overwhelmed by his pending death. I understand how hard it is to watch someone you love and admire so much wither away in front of your eyes, knowing there is nothing you can do to comfort them. I can tell you how hard it is to comfort a person who is watching their loved ones die. When my husband's grandmother was dying he was not able to be there and it made him angry at times. All I could do was sit and listen, when he would talk, and remind him how much he is loved. Good luck.
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